Here’s to you, Dad, and by the way, I’m gay!

I’ve purposely said very little on this site regarding my sexuality. As I see it, it’s only a very small part of who I am as a person. To go on and on about being gay as some often do, would give you a very narrow view of who I really am.

That being said, today I make an exception. I do not however want to feed into the argument of nurture verses nature and give anyone the idea that I grew up without a father. That simply is not the case. For most of my life I have had an incredible saint like step father, who for all practical purposes has been who I celebrate on Father’s Day.

It’s taken me many years and much soul searching to come to terms with the relationship that I have with my biological father pictured above. I no longer hold any anger or resentment towards him and wish for him, a full and happy life. I know, like many other parents he did the best job he knew how to do. He has a new son now, that I hope will be every bit the son to him, I was never able or capable of being.

It was not always that way though and I can not even purport to know what effect on my self esteems his constant taunts and teasing regarding my “sissy-ness” while growing up has had on my adult life. To this day that is exactly why you find the quote on my page, that my heroes have never been cowboys!

Over the years, I’ve slowly moved on and gradually am becoming comfortable in the skin I was born with and the person I’ve become in short, the man I’ve become.

My stepfather Paul and I rarely speak of my sexuality, and I’m sure he would rather I been straight if only because in the eyes of society it would have been a less difficult life. He however, never fails to say. “I love you son, do you need some money”? So on this Father’s day, I honor my stepfather Paul. He is everything I think a father should be and I can’t thank him enough for being a DAD to me.